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Definition of friendship

Im realising, of late, that this isnt exactly universal, so ive decided to define it for myself.

A friend is someone who has your back.

This is pretty much the first rule of friendship - i got reminded of the fact that this isnt universal today, actually - but then again, i cannot expect that much "common sense" from that friend anyways, as he himself says. So i shall redefine it here. When someone insults you when youre not around, a true friend defends you. A true friend isnt one that sits back and listens to other people talk about you behind your back. When you need a support system, your true friend is there for you. He/she is always there. ALWAYS.

A friend is someone who cares.

A true friend is one who really, sincerely cares about you and wants to make your life better. This is rare, really - there are very few people who are sincerely concerned about your well being. Its really important to recognise them and acknowledge them for what they are. This is someone who watches you win an award and feels really happy that you won it, not bad that you won it instead of him/her.

A friend is someone who respects you

Respect is very important in all relationships. Even best friends have to respect each other, although i guess boundaries are very much less than those with other friends. I mean, i wouldnt mind if sarah, stacy or liz took a decision on my behalf. Firstly, they know me well enough to do that. Secondly, i trust them explicitly, and i hold them accountable for their actions. However, with less close friends, i guess there is a certain degree to which one can be taken for granted.

Well i guess these are the three basic things that i think are required in order to be REAL friends. I try to adhere by them as far as i can for my friends, and i honestly expect no less from them either. And luckily, thus far, most have lived up to my expectations :)